Dr. Fred Luskin contends that we exist in an absolute sea of vulnerability - we have no control over most of what is truly important to us, like love. So, we need to have compassion for how hard it is to be a human being who can be hurt in so many ways. Dr. Luskin, Director of Forgiveness Projects at Stanford University, advises us not to make enemies of people that pierce our vulnerability. He likens lack of forgiveness to a solar eclipse: something gets in the way of the sun during an eclipse, and we make believe the sun is gone. Forgiveness is moving away from the eclipse and seeing the sun again - nothing changed except our perception.